not disruptive, but influential

I may have touched on this subject before, and if I did it's being revisited.

my husband told me that I tend to be a disruptive force in people's lives. mainly because I don't just let people live with a status quo that is unhealthy for them, or isn't making them happy. why would I? if I care about someone enough to be a friend to them, why would I let them go along living a mediocre existence when most of the time they know what they need to do to fix it, and just need a nudge, or continual pushing, in the right direction. this doesn't mean that I claim to have all the answers to fixing the world or even one person in it, I just want to help someone I care about to better their own life. that's not such a terrible thing, is it?

but what if subconsciously I'm not helping to make things better for them, but to make them rely on me so that I feel needed? I don't know that that's actually the case, but what if it's part of it? him saying that I'm "disruptive" really made me reevaluate my actions and conversations with a couple of close friends. mostly I try to find out what they really want, and help them to stick with that decision, because it's not always the easiest one. but other times it can be more forceful in saying that this is what should happen, this is what they need to do. and maybe I shouldn't be doing that. I tend to subscribe to the idea that things happen for a reason. and maybe I'm going against that by pushing someone in a certain direction. I guess that's not necessarily a bad thing, but what if I'm not actually helping the best outcome to come about? on the other hand, I could just let things go on the way that they are and continue to watch my friends be unhappy or confused or not really getting what they deserve out of life.

I don't know. I guess it's better to be disruptive than to be apathetic about a friendship. I just hope it ends up paying off.