The countdown continues
yesterday was exactly 5 months until my wedding day. the entire day was, in my mind, a spectacular moment of self-loathing. I have yet to find/muster up/pretend I have the will power to force my fat ass onto a treadmill. but I do have bad knees thanks to years of pretending to be picabo street, so why ruin them further when I can just crash diet a month before I need to squeeze into the little white dress (which seems to get smaller every day)? right? right!
that was the majority of my day. and I have to admit that yesterday afternoon was one of the few times that my fiance actually helped to calm my nerves (I'll get to this later), as opposed to the usual, and infuriating, comment, "whatever makes you happy."
for any bride who has, is currently, or will plan a wedding, the best advice I have for you, no matter what your budget, hire a wedding planner. and never, and I mean never ask your fiance for advice on anything beyond the date of the wedding. maybe you're one of the lucky ones to find a man with opinions on something more than when you'll have sex or when you're done watching Whose Wedding is it Anyway (side note: don't watch that show if you're planning a wedding, it's a major stress-inducer) because Sports Center is on. but if you're a woman with a significant other who has minimal interest in what your wedding looks like, sounds like, tastes like, anything; don't ask them for help or opinions. a simple, "this is what I have in mind," no, better, "this is what I've decided," is all that is needed. believe me when I tell you that this will keep you saner.
the reasoning behind this, and I've done extensive research (by research I mean crying to any woman I know who's already married), is the men honestly don't care what the wedding looks like. they don't want to go to wedding ceremonies, just receptions, and one looks exactly like the other in their mind. most men will judge by the quality of the bar; whether open or pay-for-your-own, beer and wine only or fully-stocked; this is where a man's wedding expertise ends. the most used quote by a man regarding his own wedding, after "whatever makes you happy," is "just tell me where to be at what time." and that really is all they need to know. asking them for anything beyond this, will just piss you both off, although for different reasons.
of course, planning an audrey hepburn-esque wedding when your man is clearly the line-dancing type, not a good idea. he'll do it because he loves you, but that doesn't mean he'll like it or any more than tolerate it. even though, as you've been raised to believe, this is your day, it might help to have it reflect the man you love, even if it's just a creative line in your vows or a certain song during the reception that maybe seems really wrong for a wedding, at least he knows you thought about him during the planning. and this brings me right back to my original point, hire a wedding planner. then no male opinions are needed whatsoever, and if he hates it you have someone else to blame it on. and I'm all about placing the blame.
that was the majority of my day. and I have to admit that yesterday afternoon was one of the few times that my fiance actually helped to calm my nerves (I'll get to this later), as opposed to the usual, and infuriating, comment, "whatever makes you happy."
for any bride who has, is currently, or will plan a wedding, the best advice I have for you, no matter what your budget, hire a wedding planner. and never, and I mean never ask your fiance for advice on anything beyond the date of the wedding. maybe you're one of the lucky ones to find a man with opinions on something more than when you'll have sex or when you're done watching Whose Wedding is it Anyway (side note: don't watch that show if you're planning a wedding, it's a major stress-inducer) because Sports Center is on. but if you're a woman with a significant other who has minimal interest in what your wedding looks like, sounds like, tastes like, anything; don't ask them for help or opinions. a simple, "this is what I have in mind," no, better, "this is what I've decided," is all that is needed. believe me when I tell you that this will keep you saner.
the reasoning behind this, and I've done extensive research (by research I mean crying to any woman I know who's already married), is the men honestly don't care what the wedding looks like. they don't want to go to wedding ceremonies, just receptions, and one looks exactly like the other in their mind. most men will judge by the quality of the bar; whether open or pay-for-your-own, beer and wine only or fully-stocked; this is where a man's wedding expertise ends. the most used quote by a man regarding his own wedding, after "whatever makes you happy," is "just tell me where to be at what time." and that really is all they need to know. asking them for anything beyond this, will just piss you both off, although for different reasons.
of course, planning an audrey hepburn-esque wedding when your man is clearly the line-dancing type, not a good idea. he'll do it because he loves you, but that doesn't mean he'll like it or any more than tolerate it. even though, as you've been raised to believe, this is your day, it might help to have it reflect the man you love, even if it's just a creative line in your vows or a certain song during the reception that maybe seems really wrong for a wedding, at least he knows you thought about him during the planning. and this brings me right back to my original point, hire a wedding planner. then no male opinions are needed whatsoever, and if he hates it you have someone else to blame it on. and I'm all about placing the blame.
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